Low self-esteem can deprive women of their sex lives, studies say27 Sep 2020
Women find it much harder in bed than men. Especially those who are not exactly satisfied with themselves. A new study has revealed that while men do not bother much with their appearance, their partners may even lose their sexual appetite completely for sexual appetite.
Bad timing, tight underwear, mattresses with feathers shot. There are often several unpleasant obstacles in the way of sexual adventure. However, as a recent study found, what discourages us the most from great sex is ourselves. Lack of self-confidence allegedly has a negative effect not only on our psyche, but also on our sex life.
Specifically, researchers at La Trobe University in Australia have found that an incredible 40% of women are very dissatisfied with their figure, and this is what prevents them from enjoying the sexual experience. This “physical discomfort”, as this phenomenon is described in the study, is the most common reason why women often remove sex from their list of priorities.
Dissatisfaction can “turn off”
In the act itself, low self-esteem can deprive us of sexual desires and desires. “Women get upset very easily during sex. Only a small detail can turn them off completely during sex,” comments Dr. Gabriella Morrisey, a specialist in interpersonal relationships.
Perhaps each of us has experienced it (preferably in a situation where it literally goes “stiff”): I have to pull my belly, he certainly doesn’t like my thighs, what about my hair, my breasts, my background, why did I have to wear those giant cotton panties today? Lack of self-confidence from our physical beauty gives us so many ideas to think about that somehow there is no time left to enjoy the moment.
Men are fine
However, the cited study revealed another interesting fact that we should think about: men are not hindered by dissatisfaction with their bodies in their love life. Unlike many women, only 14% of men acknowledge that their low self-esteem can interfere with that experience. When it comes to sex, men are not too stressed by their physical deficiencies.
Why do we women experience it so much? According to the experts of the mentioned research, there is a social and media pressure for perfect female beauty. How should we not freak out when Jennifer Lopez is also ranked among the actresses with a “full figure” and her supposedly large (if not giant) background is the main topic of lifestyle magazines?
When you compare the characters of Hollywood actresses and their male colleagues, you will find that most actors do not worry at all about their extra pounds or other bodily imperfections.
High heels, high self-confidence
The world may not be fair, but the only thing you can always count on is ourselves. The path to healthy self-confidence thus begins primarily in our head. Loving yourself and your body is a guaranteed recipe for enjoying life with all its attractions.
Working on a positive perception of yourself may not be easy, but it works. “Think about what you admire. Do you have beautiful hair, legs or something else? Put on high-heeled shoes that have been lingering in your shoebox for too long and go out into the world. That’s what your self-confidence needs,” he advises. Dr. Morissey, how to do it.